A woman stuck on Earth

As I was updating my Chinese friends on my thoughts about the "Why," our discussion went a step further as we applied our own unique perspective - the Chinese circumstance. We do that all the time; every single issue can be slightly or vastly different under the unique realities of being Chinese.  "Think about Buddhism. Although it was first fiercely promoted by Wu Zetian - China’s one and only female emperor, who used it because Hinduism and Buddhism view Goddesses as equally powerful, thereby increasing the masses' acceptance of a female ruler - the ruling class later never actively promoted it again. Instead, it was the ordinary people of China who embraced and spread Buddhism themselves. Why? Because if a 'religion' or way of living aims to liberate people from their physical bodies and help them achieve enlightenment, that school of thought will only bring trouble to a ruling class by creating too many freed souls. Instead, Confucianism has been the sole...

​If all physical entities on Earth - animals and plants alike - are merely temporary dwellings for our souls, and if our souls are just drops of water belonging to a vast, interconnected ocean of the One, then why is human connection so fractured? ​There are countless animal communicators who can telepathically connect with other species. Yet, we humans, who self-recognize as "the same species," rarely speak of communication that goes beyond words and physical vibrations. We should be able to telepathically communicate with each other, shouldn't we? Why aren't we doing it? Why don't we even believe in it? ​The "why" is simple: animals are pure, open, and spiritual. They communicate with their hearts, their whole bodies, and their intuition. Humans, on the other hand, generally exchange thoughts using only our minds, leaving our hearts out of the equation. We habitually block our intuition. Our minds are always guarded, on defense, and under control. We c...

It is finally time for us to welcome our third child. The difference this time is that the initiation came not from me or my husband, but from our daughter. She has been begging us for a dog since the day she could speak a full sentence. I take these milestones seriously. Just as I fiercely researched child education for a year before my firstborn arrived, I have recently been immersing myself in the role of a "dog mom." One thing led to another, and as if waking up from a dream, I suddenly found myself on the path to becoming an animal communicator, exploring telepathy for interspecies communication. I haven't had my first breakthrough yet - that initial moment most animal communicators describe as shocking because "it really happened." However, after listening to just one story, I believed this to be absolutely true. I do not have a single doubt that living beings can connect and communicate telepathically, nor do I lack the confidence to do it myself. Within ...

​I believe I have arrived at a very good place in the ups and downs of my life's journey.  First of all, I started hearing this from my husband: "I'm an extremely confident man, but you're even more confident than me. You're supremely confident; it's sometimes hard to keep up with you!" ​ It's true that I have never felt a tiny bit of inferiority in any aspect of my life or myself since I was a little kid. I have also never doubted my ability to do anything I decided to do because I have never really cared about who said what, for as long as I can remember. I am simply progressing through hard work and living my journey at my own pace, on my own terms. ​ But this "supreme confidence" energy that my husband is experiencing from me now - I think it truly blossomed after becoming a mother. It bloomed after opening my legs in the delivery room in front of a crowd of excited family and friends welcoming their first newborn, and after losing myself...

I was trying to explain to my mother-in-law why matriarchal social structures are far better for raising children than the fragile, traditional familial structure (one man and one woman), which is largely a byproduct of patriarchy and capitalism. ​"It’s normal for people to grow apart and break up, especially in romantic relationships," I told her. "Relying on a single man-woman couple to stay together forever is like relying on a single bridge cable to hold a massive ship - if that one line snaps, everything drifts away. But if, like elephants, children were born into all-female herds, they would never have to experience the loss of a significant part of themselves the way they do when a mom and dad divorce. In a matriarchy, the guardian structure - consisting of moms, aunties, and grandmothers - is fluid and flexible." ​"But children need a mom and a dad..." My mother-in-law was not so convinced. ​"I’m talking about a matriarchal structure, Maa. ...

​I had an appointment with an OB/GYN nurse for a vaginal swab and ended up learning a lot about perimenopause. ​For about 10 days, I experienced significant joint pain, most likely due to hormonal changes - even though I have a progestin-releasing IUD in my uterus that magically topped my periods (God bless IUD!!). The nurse noted, "It could be a sign you're entering perimenopause, too." ​From our 20-minute conversation, I learned that: 1. ​Definitions: Menopause is clinically defined as the point 12 months after your final period. However, there can be a transition period of 7 to 10 years of perimenopause before reaching that point. 2. ​Timing: On average, menopause occurs between the mid-40s and early 50s; therefore, perimenopause can start as early as age 35. 3. Testing Limitations: If you take hormonal level tests, a hormonal IUD can impact the results. To get a perfectly accurate "natural" reading, you would have to remove the IUD, though this is often un...

My son didn't eat the lunch Grandma packed today because he won second place in his class vocabulary competition and was rewarded with free pizza. He’s been furiously studying vocabulary on his school laptop recently. I was worried about his screen time at first, but whenever I sneaked a look and saw him learning, I chose not to intervene. My son has always been praised for being ultra-focused, whether it’s horse riding, fencing, music, or school subjects. He can spend hours undistracted, researching and building airplanes or rocket ships from cardboard and shampoo bottles. As a mother, I take some credit for his level of focus. I always go back to how strictly I implemented a "no screen policy" for the first six years of my children's lives. It was so rigorous that no adults were allowed to use devices in their presence. I learned about the devastating impact of screens on development when I was pregnant with my first child. Most programs - even those labeled "e...