Different approaches to my UTI problem

My body is sensitive; in some seasons, I experience recurring UTIs. At my primary physician's office, I was usually seen by her nurse practitioner, an Iranian woman in a hijab. For years, I kept an open mind and an open heart with her, pretending that she was acting professionally and providing helpful treatments and tips.

Her comments sometimes included: "Don't have sex for a few months; that's the only solution to your recurring UTI problem," "Touching could cause UTIs too," "Now you are forcing me to know about your life," "Don't wear thongs; it moves around and brings bacteria to the front," and "I can't order you tests unless you have symptons and you have to come to the office so I can order the test."  It wasn't until I transferred all of my private-part care to my OB-GYN's office that I realized how unprofessional those comments were.

My OB-GYN is a Vietnamese man who knows exactly what he needs to know about my life to give me the best treatments and suggestions. I always talk freely with him. He never comments on what I should or shouldn't do regarding my body or life. He explained, "If you have continuous positive urine culture results, for example, three times within a year, I will prescribe you antibiotics for prevention that you can take whenever you need them. I have patients who need to take them every day for their entire lives."

After I sent a message in the health app, he always quickly ordered a test for me. He was concerned that relying on a message reply might not be fast enough, especially when he takes leave, so he ordered 20 standing tests for me. Now, I can walk into the lab in his office building without an appointment whenever I need to.